Let me start by saying what is love, when I look around and see what is love and what we mean by love today it reminds of Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski where he talks about fish love, what he says is that we say that we love to fish and in turn what we do is we take the fish out of its natural habitat and then eat it. This is not your love for the fish but actually what you meant was that you love to eat the fish. That is your love for your self.
Love is described in numerous ways in the scriptures, but the main essence is the same let me give some example love as mentioned in the Bible and the Gita
The Bible describes Love as
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hope, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
In the Gita, love is described as
On the path of bhakti yoga, help is proffered, and spirits are healed through love—through the soul’s love for that which is eternal, and through the love of the eternal for each soul.
When Jesus was asked what the greatest command is, he said love your God with all your soul and heart and the second is the love your neighbor as you love your self
After looking at these examples I would like to give my personal Opinion about love.
In today’s world the word Love is the most abused word I guess it is more abused than the swear word also frankly the worst of the swear word is also an act of love which has been so much abused that the entire meaning of it has changed and to that matter I would not use that word on the blog.
We fall in love and my question is something that should raise us up to how that can make us fall.
What we have done is make love into a commodity that we can acquire and give up when we want to. What we need to understand is the fact that we are supposed to love ourselves but at the same time love our neighbors the same way as we love ourselves. Today the society at large has become so narcissistic and self-absorbed that we act like fish love. The consumeristic nature that has been advertised and showcased so much has made love a commodity and due to which we have heartaches.
Love is actually a way of life where we sacrifice ourselves for the joy and happiness of others. This is a selfless act which makes us happy when we see the joy of others. It is not about what I get but what I give. Many times, in what the act of what I give we will actually sacrifice our own desires, but the strength that we get from the fact that we have loved without ceasing and without the desire to get back is more than anything that this world can offer.
The point is if I give something to you, I’ve invested myself in you. Since self-love is a given, everybody loves themselves, now that part of me has become in you, there’s part of me in you that I love. True love is a love of giving, not a love of receiving
For the ending I will like to say is that if you love someone you will not fall in love but actually, you will rise in love