‘Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present.’ — Marcus Aurelius

“Most people make the error of thinking that one day it will be done. They think, “If I can work enough, then one day I could rest.” Or, “I’m only doing this now so that one day I can do what I really want with my life.” 

The error we make is to think that eventually, things will be different in some fundamental way. They won’t. It never ends. As long as life continues, the creative challenge is to tussle, play, and make love with the present moment while giving your unique gift.” — David Deida 

Rushing Through Life 

Why are we all in such a rush for completion and finality? 

Married couples are easy to pick on. Two people have the most exciting moment at the beginning of the journey, the wedding, and then they get comfortable, stop dating each other, and many of them stop having sex altogether. In the process, they lose sight of why they even got together in the first place. Why did they marry and what is it that holds them together?

But this example is a minuscule of a broader problem we all struggle with to some degree.

Why do you want to reach a place where you’re comfortable and content? Why would you ever want to reach a point where you have all the answers, you’re perfectly sure of yourself, and there’s no room for growth? 

Why do people look forward to retirement, weekends, and any moments that provide an escape or an end to the yin and yang that is work? Why is tenure and having no pressure to perform, a worthwhile goal? Why do we want to feel accomplished? Why are we all in a rush to check out? 

Stay Uncomfortable 

Accomplishment doesn’t fill the void in your life. I have reached comfortable situations and mundane life a number of times in my life. Reaching milestones only feels good for a brief moment and then you quickly get used to your new level of success. Familiarity breeds contempt. Honestly, aside from meditating in a cave for ten hours per day, I don’t think there’s any way to reach a true and lasting level of contentment. The Abode of God is not a myth but it’s not meant to be on earth.

The next best thing, the thing I focus on, is growth. My life got better when I realized there was no endpoint to look forward to. I’ve built a relationship with being uncomfortable. On the one hand, having less certainty causes some level of anxiety, sure. But on the other hand, you’re always on your toes and never bored

Stay on your toes long enough, and you realize you crave the adventure itself. The way my life is constructed right now, I build foundations and move onto new things. I’ll write for the rest of my life, but I don’t feel like I have anything to prove anymore. I love how much I hate being a nobody on the platform. It annoys me in a good way. I will get the seed into the ground. The rest will take care of itself.  

I look at the Bible and see a pattern and that is Jesus planted the seed, finished His part of killing death itself and that was it. He did not preach to the world or Speak of His kingdom to the people. That was done by the disciples who also kept planting. Did any of them see the end of the earth?

After that? Who knows. 

But this is just how I feel. How do you feel about life? Are you checked in or checked out? 

 Commitment Consistency 

The more you commit to something, the less you want to let go of it, no matter how shitty it is. You see it in careers, places that we live, the way we do things, even the way we think and our entire lives. 

We get into this groove and you just so desperately want some level of consistency in our life, some solidified identity you can cling to, that you never change. 

In your rush to “get your life figured out,” you got…exactly what you wanted. Maybe your life sucks, but you do have it all figured out. You know what to expect. You have beliefs and ideas that are real to you even though they might not be useful. And you cling to them until you die. All of this derived from this need for completion and finality. 

I never want to feel complete. I never want to feel like I have it all figured out. And deep down, neither do you. 

The question is…what are you going to do about it?

Are you going to live in the cage of comfort, and be a slave and to conform to it, or will you be brave and live in the jungle? The jungle can be harsh and cruel, but many species survive and thrive in the jungle because they learn how to adapt.

If there’s an arrival point worth reaching, it’s the ability to have complete fluidity and adaptability. To not need to know all the answers upfront. To live this quote:

‘Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present.’ — Marcus Aurelius 

Tomorrow doesn’t exist anywhere except in your mind. There’s no such thing as the future. Stop being in such a rush to get to it. To “settle down.” 

Why settle for anything, at all, ever? 

Only Death and beyond is the finality of things, to be with God should be our final Goal. everything else is just temporary. So why hold on to it.  

Live a life of adventure. In all this do not forget to hold on to your core principals.